Through My Estranged Daughter’s Eyes

Tonight I found myself scrolling through photo files on my computer.  Suddenly I came upon a collection of photos my youngest daughter had taken on a vacation.  Just her and I, on a Caribbean cruise to celebrate our graduations.  Hers from high school, mine from my long awaited Bachelor’s degree.

I realized while I was looking at the photos, I was seeing our trip through her eyes.  Right now—with no hope in sight of an end to this estrangement—it felt like the only way I could possibly hear from her.  Through the eyes of her camera lens.  So I took a trip to the Caribbean tonight seeing it as she saw it.  Seeing it through my tears as I remembered the fun we had together, just the two of us.

How could things have gone so wrong?

I’m going to share a few of her photos that don’t have identifying features. A few moments in time from our graduation vacation … through my daughter’s eyes (and through my tears).


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4 thoughts on “Through My Estranged Daughter’s Eyes

    • They almost rewrite the narrative of their lives. Once they decide you’re the bad guy, they have to see everything through that lens to bolster their distorted view of life. One of my estranged daughters keeps a memoir blog, and she’s started to tell stories about me. Stories that aren’t true. A psychologist that I’ve been seeing through this said that it’s a more compelling “story” for her blog readers if she writes her mother as awful, rather than to share the truth of the love we shared.

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      • Oh wow, I am so sorry to hear that. I feel your pain, because I have been there. “They almost rewrite the narrative of their lives.” Dang! I never thought of it in these terms and you are so right. I often wonder if they have to make us out to be bad because it’s the only way they can not look inward at themselves…

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  1. I am so thankful for your shares and share in your pain. I think this is the worst feeling in the world and no one understands unless they go through it themselves and i don’t wish this feeling on anyone. I was beginning to think i was alone and am so lost. I lost my Mother and best friend in April, then my 22 yr old daughter left shortly after in October suddenly and has been posting hateful things about me that are not true and making me out to be some monster. No sooner do i almost have a grip on thinking about it and feeling pretty good, someone has to bring it up again and even though they know you don’t want to hear it, tells you anyway then if you happen to be reminiscing and mention your daughter, tell you to knock it off and not dwell on it because it will eat you up, Thanks to others sharing i no longer feel so alone. It doesn’t make it less painful but it helps me with my sanity. I thank you and I also send my heartfelt love to you and am so sorry you too are dealing with something similiar as I am.

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